Be Happy!!
Every day we are faced with choices. Our decisions can shape our entire day - or it can change our entire lives!! We make choices depending our our taste - but "sometimes" our taste changes and we don't even notice. Have you ever "liked" something and later in life find out that it just does not "taste" the same? Similarly this is true in the people we choose for our lives. We may grow up with a "taste" for someone "tall, dark and athletic" and THEN - BAM - God sends you a fantastic man that is "short, consistent, loving, mentally and financially stable". If you are smart - you will pay attention to your "tastes" and honor when the "taste" changes.
The first question that may surface is "how do you know when your taste changes". Actually, it is pretty easy. Over time in this journey of life, you will notice how you mature beyond certain conversations, people and places. "These" people may "things" may not have done a thing wrong to you - you just don't feel the same "butterflies" around "them" anymore. Certainly, when you enter into a serious relationship you begin to understand how your circle MUST change to accommodate your new lifestyle choice. No woman (or man) wants to feel "second" to their partner's interests. Men tend to love their cars. No woman wants to share an intimate moment with a man and he is lying there thinking about his Chevrolet!! Likewise, man don't want to compete with the whims of women, either. Perhaps you "used to" hang out with your "friend-girls" on the weekends. Nothing wrong with that in a relationship as long as it does not play a burden on your mate. Thing is - he may NEVER SAY ANYTHING. Pay attention to his body language and interest in your evening out. Clearly, it is healthy to have "time away" but pay attention to who you are with, how much time you spend away form your blossoming relationship and are consider if you are silently hurting your mate while you try to hang on to the change of "taste" that has just taken place in your life. Choose wisely. Most of all - Choose to be happy!!
Fashion is a changing arena for sure! From platform shoes to flats to "red bottom shoes" to flip-flops, trends change. What was a fashion accessory today is "out of style" by advertising standards in a split second. It important to "find YOUR style". Our chemistry may be different from someone else so fragrances may smell differently on you from your friend or the friendly clerk at the perfume counter at your favorite store who just sprayed something elegant on you. You are an individual with unique tasts and needs, don't deny them. Choose wisely. Most of all - Choose to be happy!!
Let's add technology. In this ever changing world where intellect, speed and need for information is at our fingertips, great minds keep developing "something new". By the time you purchase a hand-held device - it is almost considered "out of date" in no time at all. The revolution of technology devices is amazing!!! When I got my first "flip-phone" - I thought I had ARRIVED! :-) We graduate to the "newest" and the "fastest" but at the end of the day we are faced with - did I choose wisely and do I have "buyers regret". If it ain't broken - I say don't fix it - otherwise you will be in search of the elusive "high" and never actually find it. On the other hand - in keeping with the theme of this prose - make sure you choose to be happy!!
About those food choices. Yeah, to "super - size" or not is the question! :-) The massive amounts of food we get is likely a reason for our weight issues. I wrestled most of my life with losing weight. I successfully lost 100 pounds but C'Mon - ask me if it was easy. I'd give you a resounding - NO. I had to teach myself about how to enjoy smaller quantities. When I (personally) eat out - I immediately ask for a "take out container" and put half of my hearty meal in it! I "learned" how to go to the gym and be more conscious about an exercise regiment. Dare to ask me if I slip and eat - well, heck, YES! My daughter is a Pastry Chef!! Then there is that caution about "what did the doctor say". If you have been to the doctor and you have dietary restrictions, please heed them. As you know, what looks good to you - is not always good for you". If you know you are diabetic - slowing down the car when the light is on at Krispy Kreme may not be the best for you. :-) It is common to go outside the parameters of what your doctor instructed but the price may be high - at the end of the day - is it really worth it? Choose wisely. Choose to be happy!
Infidelity is one of those "stick issues" to consider as well. It is EASY to "find someone" to satisfy a weak moment - but is it really worth it? Hearts are broken, integrity lost and families destroyed because someone could not just say NO to their flesh. Children have to suffer and in an information super-highway one's reputation is destroyed in a matter of moments. Cameras are EVERYWHERE and people "talk" - even the best laid secrets surface - usually at the wrong time. Choose wisely. Choose to be happy! (make sure the risk you take is worth the repercussions that follow..... I am just saying....)
In truth, happiness is not as elusive as one may imagine. Happiness is INDEED a choice.
Choose to be happy!!
The first question that may surface is "how do you know when your taste changes". Actually, it is pretty easy. Over time in this journey of life, you will notice how you mature beyond certain conversations, people and places. "These" people may "things" may not have done a thing wrong to you - you just don't feel the same "butterflies" around "them" anymore. Certainly, when you enter into a serious relationship you begin to understand how your circle MUST change to accommodate your new lifestyle choice. No woman (or man) wants to feel "second" to their partner's interests. Men tend to love their cars. No woman wants to share an intimate moment with a man and he is lying there thinking about his Chevrolet!! Likewise, man don't want to compete with the whims of women, either. Perhaps you "used to" hang out with your "friend-girls" on the weekends. Nothing wrong with that in a relationship as long as it does not play a burden on your mate. Thing is - he may NEVER SAY ANYTHING. Pay attention to his body language and interest in your evening out. Clearly, it is healthy to have "time away" but pay attention to who you are with, how much time you spend away form your blossoming relationship and are consider if you are silently hurting your mate while you try to hang on to the change of "taste" that has just taken place in your life. Choose wisely. Most of all - Choose to be happy!!
Fashion is a changing arena for sure! From platform shoes to flats to "red bottom shoes" to flip-flops, trends change. What was a fashion accessory today is "out of style" by advertising standards in a split second. It important to "find YOUR style". Our chemistry may be different from someone else so fragrances may smell differently on you from your friend or the friendly clerk at the perfume counter at your favorite store who just sprayed something elegant on you. You are an individual with unique tasts and needs, don't deny them. Choose wisely. Most of all - Choose to be happy!!
Let's add technology. In this ever changing world where intellect, speed and need for information is at our fingertips, great minds keep developing "something new". By the time you purchase a hand-held device - it is almost considered "out of date" in no time at all. The revolution of technology devices is amazing!!! When I got my first "flip-phone" - I thought I had ARRIVED! :-) We graduate to the "newest" and the "fastest" but at the end of the day we are faced with - did I choose wisely and do I have "buyers regret". If it ain't broken - I say don't fix it - otherwise you will be in search of the elusive "high" and never actually find it. On the other hand - in keeping with the theme of this prose - make sure you choose to be happy!!
About those food choices. Yeah, to "super - size" or not is the question! :-) The massive amounts of food we get is likely a reason for our weight issues. I wrestled most of my life with losing weight. I successfully lost 100 pounds but C'Mon - ask me if it was easy. I'd give you a resounding - NO. I had to teach myself about how to enjoy smaller quantities. When I (personally) eat out - I immediately ask for a "take out container" and put half of my hearty meal in it! I "learned" how to go to the gym and be more conscious about an exercise regiment. Dare to ask me if I slip and eat - well, heck, YES! My daughter is a Pastry Chef!! Then there is that caution about "what did the doctor say". If you have been to the doctor and you have dietary restrictions, please heed them. As you know, what looks good to you - is not always good for you". If you know you are diabetic - slowing down the car when the light is on at Krispy Kreme may not be the best for you. :-) It is common to go outside the parameters of what your doctor instructed but the price may be high - at the end of the day - is it really worth it? Choose wisely. Choose to be happy!
Infidelity is one of those "stick issues" to consider as well. It is EASY to "find someone" to satisfy a weak moment - but is it really worth it? Hearts are broken, integrity lost and families destroyed because someone could not just say NO to their flesh. Children have to suffer and in an information super-highway one's reputation is destroyed in a matter of moments. Cameras are EVERYWHERE and people "talk" - even the best laid secrets surface - usually at the wrong time. Choose wisely. Choose to be happy! (make sure the risk you take is worth the repercussions that follow..... I am just saying....)
In truth, happiness is not as elusive as one may imagine. Happiness is INDEED a choice.
Choose to be happy!!
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