HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!!
It would be an error on my part to not pay honor to every mother on this the celebrated day and season to do so. Certainly, the contributions of women in the landscape of history is too noteworthy and vast to document on one writing however, YOU are probably one!
If you are a mother, NO ONE can probably imagine the silence of your screams, the depth of pain in your heart or the careful balance of finances just to "keep the house going'. No one will ever know the times you chose NOT to eat in order for your children to eat. From that babbling baby in diapers to giving them away to be wed to that special person you prayed would cross their path......the journey has its highs and definitely has its lows.
Thing is - every mother has a different story. A wealthy woman (for instance) may not have to worry about making sure the electric bill is paid AND make sure that their "little one" has enough money for new school clothes. A mother that has not been blessed with "things" of material worth learns lessons in the belly of despair that would be worthy to be shared with one who has wealth. It is a balance and a challenge is still a challenge - independent of what side of the "tracks" we are born on.
Oh, and let's not forget the fathers who stepped up to the plate and became the "mother" - the daunting role of a "father" seeking services from food stamps to taking cookies to school to watch their child do their presentation during "show and tell". The society we are in allows women to assume increasing roles in the workplace BUT the stigma of a "man" evolving, and accepting responsibility has not changed. There has seemingly been a negative opinion associated with MEN who taken on the nurturing role and this could not be more regretful. The quiet stripping of his masculinity and the visible and "not so visible" whispers is daunting. Justin case no one celebrates the MEN who are in a role that society may not always applaud - consider this moment your STANDING OVATION..... BRAVO!!!
To this end, whether you are a man or a woman in this season of reflection and celebration, whether you get a bouquet of roses, a card or a gentle kiss on the cheek, consider YOURSELF worthy of applause. Of course, NO ONE may outwardly recognize the contributions you make every day to keep all of the a pleasant place to live - I hope these words pierce your heart because I understand.
For years I did not feel appreciated! All I knew is that I had to let my feet touch the floor and "get it done". As a domestic abuse survivor, one does not always have the luxury to "QUIT". How do "we" do it - in a word - GOD! You do not have to be a bible thumping theologian to know how to call on God. The greatest intimacy I have found with God has been during the darkest moments of my life. I have a special place in my heart for single-moms - particularly single-moms who suffered domestic abuse. It is difficult to measure pain in the realm of depths of pain - but I assure you - there is no one alive that wants to be a "single mom" - much less a "single mom who is a SURVIVOR of domestic abuse!
If no one takes you out to dinner on Mother's Day - don't forget to lie your weary head on your pillow and whisper a prayer to God. The same pillow that held your tears is also the place of peace because had it not been for the Lord on your side - where would you be. As bad as things may feel - they could be worse.
As a child, my daughter would "make" me a card for holidays such as Mother's Day. They have meant more to me than words can say. As an adult, she is able to do things for me that "take my breath away". She will listen to what I mention that I "want" and get it for me. In short, she may not know the magnitude of my sacrifice - but she recognizes that mommy did her best with what she had. Similarly is true with many of you, I am sure. Look for the "little" things your children seek to do for you. In their own way, they are telling you "Thank You", "I appreciate you" - "Mom, you are the best".
"Deborah's Freedom" is viewed by male and female from geographies too vast to mention with monetary value of people "just barely making it" to the affluent. For this I am grateful. On this Mother's Day consider yourself a DIAMOND - so very precious but rare. It is uncommonly EASY to be a mother - but it takes someone very special to be a parent!
Go ahead, take a bath instead of a shower! Wear that night-gown that you put away for a "special day". Eat that butter pecan ice cream for Pete's Sake! Why not turn your cell phone off for one day and love on YOU. No one may understand what it takes for YOU to feel loved but you - sometimes you just need "SILENCE". :-)
Happy Mother's Day to you! Not one tear you have cried has been in vain. Not one moment you have "felt" overlooked, overwhelmed or undervalued has not been seen by Our Father. Consider the level of reward you are bestowed when you look in the face of that little person that looks just like you. You assisted God in the miracle of life.
YOU ARE AMAZING!
If you are a mother, NO ONE can probably imagine the silence of your screams, the depth of pain in your heart or the careful balance of finances just to "keep the house going'. No one will ever know the times you chose NOT to eat in order for your children to eat. From that babbling baby in diapers to giving them away to be wed to that special person you prayed would cross their path......the journey has its highs and definitely has its lows.
Thing is - every mother has a different story. A wealthy woman (for instance) may not have to worry about making sure the electric bill is paid AND make sure that their "little one" has enough money for new school clothes. A mother that has not been blessed with "things" of material worth learns lessons in the belly of despair that would be worthy to be shared with one who has wealth. It is a balance and a challenge is still a challenge - independent of what side of the "tracks" we are born on.
Oh, and let's not forget the fathers who stepped up to the plate and became the "mother" - the daunting role of a "father" seeking services from food stamps to taking cookies to school to watch their child do their presentation during "show and tell". The society we are in allows women to assume increasing roles in the workplace BUT the stigma of a "man" evolving, and accepting responsibility has not changed. There has seemingly been a negative opinion associated with MEN who taken on the nurturing role and this could not be more regretful. The quiet stripping of his masculinity and the visible and "not so visible" whispers is daunting. Justin case no one celebrates the MEN who are in a role that society may not always applaud - consider this moment your STANDING OVATION..... BRAVO!!!
To this end, whether you are a man or a woman in this season of reflection and celebration, whether you get a bouquet of roses, a card or a gentle kiss on the cheek, consider YOURSELF worthy of applause. Of course, NO ONE may outwardly recognize the contributions you make every day to keep all of the a pleasant place to live - I hope these words pierce your heart because I understand.
For years I did not feel appreciated! All I knew is that I had to let my feet touch the floor and "get it done". As a domestic abuse survivor, one does not always have the luxury to "QUIT". How do "we" do it - in a word - GOD! You do not have to be a bible thumping theologian to know how to call on God. The greatest intimacy I have found with God has been during the darkest moments of my life. I have a special place in my heart for single-moms - particularly single-moms who suffered domestic abuse. It is difficult to measure pain in the realm of depths of pain - but I assure you - there is no one alive that wants to be a "single mom" - much less a "single mom who is a SURVIVOR of domestic abuse!
If no one takes you out to dinner on Mother's Day - don't forget to lie your weary head on your pillow and whisper a prayer to God. The same pillow that held your tears is also the place of peace because had it not been for the Lord on your side - where would you be. As bad as things may feel - they could be worse.
As a child, my daughter would "make" me a card for holidays such as Mother's Day. They have meant more to me than words can say. As an adult, she is able to do things for me that "take my breath away". She will listen to what I mention that I "want" and get it for me. In short, she may not know the magnitude of my sacrifice - but she recognizes that mommy did her best with what she had. Similarly is true with many of you, I am sure. Look for the "little" things your children seek to do for you. In their own way, they are telling you "Thank You", "I appreciate you" - "Mom, you are the best".
"Deborah's Freedom" is viewed by male and female from geographies too vast to mention with monetary value of people "just barely making it" to the affluent. For this I am grateful. On this Mother's Day consider yourself a DIAMOND - so very precious but rare. It is uncommonly EASY to be a mother - but it takes someone very special to be a parent!
Go ahead, take a bath instead of a shower! Wear that night-gown that you put away for a "special day". Eat that butter pecan ice cream for Pete's Sake! Why not turn your cell phone off for one day and love on YOU. No one may understand what it takes for YOU to feel loved but you - sometimes you just need "SILENCE". :-)
Happy Mother's Day to you! Not one tear you have cried has been in vain. Not one moment you have "felt" overlooked, overwhelmed or undervalued has not been seen by Our Father. Consider the level of reward you are bestowed when you look in the face of that little person that looks just like you. You assisted God in the miracle of life.
YOU ARE AMAZING!
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