You Are Loved!
"Tis the season to celebrate love whether you are in a relationship or not. Many stores have stocked their shelves full of trinkets and sentiments to express ones sustaining love. The florists are getting in gear to assemble bouquets of finely arranged and wonderfully scented flowers for the "one you love". Chocolate connoisseur finds great delight getting a heart-shaped box filled with gooey delights. The well crafted cards speaking sentiments of love are carefully chosen and purchased. The stuffed animals get a special "squeeze" and some "talk" to say "I love you"! The more affluent shopper knows that "Diamonds are a girls best friend" - and that velvet box is sure to put a smile on her face~ :-) The purchaser of such gifts is anxiously awaiting the facial expression of the recipient because it came from their heart! The outward expression of the inward transformation of the heart is bountiful during this season (as well it should) - and I take this time to wish everyone a "HAPPY VALENTINES DAY".... although this greeting comes early.
The CALENDAR boasts a specific date to celebrate love - but love is an utterance of affection to be exchanged daily. Not necessarily in a tangible expense of gift giving - but in words and in actions. Quite frankly, the BEST time to buy Valentines Day candy - is the day AFTER Valentines Day - 50% off~ :-) Just imagine the look on the face of your loved one when you stop by the local grocery store and purchase a small bouquet of flowers and say "I Love You".... just because. It is not necessarily the BIG expense that yields the greatest rewards. Taking a break at work and sending a text to ask "How is your day going".... it says that I am on your mind. If your budget on a "Happy Meal" level right now - make sure you ask for ketchup for her fries. If you are getting dressed up for dinner - kindly pull out her chair. Valentines Day is not completely comprised of "things" - it is a reflection of love...love from the heart. Now, that is PRICELESS!!
While "couples" get the main focus during this season - I don't count MYSELF out. Yes, I am single but guess what....I love myself and I celebrate myself!
It is not uncommon for me to send flowers to myself. An ornately arranged bouquet is delivered by a florist and I gush over it as though someone special purchased it for me. Truth is, someone special DID purchase them for me. I CELEBRATE MYSELF! I have learned the magic expression of loving MYSELF until God sends me my mate. It is not out of conceit or arrogance - the days and years are flashing past us - I cannot afford to mope around wishing for something that is in God's ordained timing. Soooooo - I will walk into a fine restaurant and get a table for ONE. I carefully choose my apparel. People are going to look - let's give 'em something to talk about! Your confidence and your aura is visible - go ahead and ROCK THE ROOM! Do not *even* settle for the 2-seater table with a missing light overhead near the waitress station. You are a paying customer - just choosing to dine alone - for now. I am paying for quality service and that is what I expect. Happy Valentines Day...
During this season of "couples" do not think of your SINGLE-NESS as a curse. Do not feel "left out". Don't feel like you have to tolerate a dysfunctional relationship in lieu of being alone. There are many "couples" posting a selfie - that are miserable. Don't YOU sacrifice your PEACE OF MIND in order to satisfy the social constraints of the season. to me. It is my prerogative to "do what I wanna do". This may NOT be what you want - but "it is what it is".... FOR NOW!
Lead Pastor Mike Todd of the Transformation Church preached a PROLIFIC series on "RELATIONSHIP GOALS". Unequivocally, I was tuned into Part II of the series "Single Not Alone". Any excerpts I insert will give no justice to your hearing the full sermon. I will not "add to" or "take away from" what I insert in this narrative - I hope my endorsement will encourage you to hit your YouTube browser and listen to it for yourself. This is a six-series and the "INTENTIONAL DATING" ,,,, WOW.. THAT PART!!
Consider this pong (from the sermon series) about being single:
For the record, I am NOT - "anti"- Single neither am I "pro" Marriage. Ultimately, I want to embrace God's PERFECT plan for my life. I don't know if I will visit with written dialogue again BEFORE February 14th - I must be led by the Holy Spirit. Should we not communicate before then - I plead with you to celebrate yourself.
No one may ever celebrate you for maintaining your integrity (even though you may have had several times to fail God). No one may celebrate you as a single mom (or dad). Look at you keeping the home in order raising a child that will one day be a functional contributor to society. Celebrate the fact that you don't have a LIE-ING person LYING next to you every morning! Celebrate your freedom of choice. Celebrate your individuality - you can choose to wear flats or red-bottom shoes - t-Shirts or a dress. Celebrate yourself for have a clear state of mind in a society of "Reality TV" where the true structure of the home is sometimes misunderstood. Celebrate your flaws. Celebrate your imperfections. You, are a MASTERPIECE!
EACH DAY IS VALENTINES DAY TO ME!
The CALENDAR boasts a specific date to celebrate love - but love is an utterance of affection to be exchanged daily. Not necessarily in a tangible expense of gift giving - but in words and in actions. Quite frankly, the BEST time to buy Valentines Day candy - is the day AFTER Valentines Day - 50% off~ :-) Just imagine the look on the face of your loved one when you stop by the local grocery store and purchase a small bouquet of flowers and say "I Love You".... just because. It is not necessarily the BIG expense that yields the greatest rewards. Taking a break at work and sending a text to ask "How is your day going".... it says that I am on your mind. If your budget on a "Happy Meal" level right now - make sure you ask for ketchup for her fries. If you are getting dressed up for dinner - kindly pull out her chair. Valentines Day is not completely comprised of "things" - it is a reflection of love...love from the heart. Now, that is PRICELESS!!
While "couples" get the main focus during this season - I don't count MYSELF out. Yes, I am single but guess what....I love myself and I celebrate myself!
It is not uncommon for me to send flowers to myself. An ornately arranged bouquet is delivered by a florist and I gush over it as though someone special purchased it for me. Truth is, someone special DID purchase them for me. I CELEBRATE MYSELF! I have learned the magic expression of loving MYSELF until God sends me my mate. It is not out of conceit or arrogance - the days and years are flashing past us - I cannot afford to mope around wishing for something that is in God's ordained timing. Soooooo - I will walk into a fine restaurant and get a table for ONE. I carefully choose my apparel. People are going to look - let's give 'em something to talk about! Your confidence and your aura is visible - go ahead and ROCK THE ROOM! Do not *even* settle for the 2-seater table with a missing light overhead near the waitress station. You are a paying customer - just choosing to dine alone - for now. I am paying for quality service and that is what I expect. Happy Valentines Day...
During this season of "couples" do not think of your SINGLE-NESS as a curse. Do not feel "left out". Don't feel like you have to tolerate a dysfunctional relationship in lieu of being alone. There are many "couples" posting a selfie - that are miserable. Don't YOU sacrifice your PEACE OF MIND in order to satisfy the social constraints of the season. to me. It is my prerogative to "do what I wanna do". This may NOT be what you want - but "it is what it is".... FOR NOW!
Lead Pastor Mike Todd of the Transformation Church preached a PROLIFIC series on "RELATIONSHIP GOALS". Unequivocally, I was tuned into Part II of the series "Single Not Alone". Any excerpts I insert will give no justice to your hearing the full sermon. I will not "add to" or "take away from" what I insert in this narrative - I hope my endorsement will encourage you to hit your YouTube browser and listen to it for yourself. This is a six-series and the "INTENTIONAL DATING" ,,,, WOW.. THAT PART!!
Consider this pong (from the sermon series) about being single:
- "Single-ness" may be the most important time of your life! That space where you are not responsible for anybody else except yourself. The problem is - most of us negate that season trying to get to a preferred future that we do not even know about. You see the look of marriage, you see the appearance of marriage, you see the pictures of marriage BUT you don't know what it takes to do that. You "assume" you know what it takes.
- It is more important to be SINGLE than it is to be MARRIED!
- Marriage is only as good s your single-ness
- If your single-ness is not on a good foundation, your marriage will not be the thing that builds your house. Whoever you are is what you bring to your marriage.
- If they (the person you want to be in a relationship in...) knew you - like you know you - would they want to marry you? You know the stuff you do that nobody else knows that you do.
- Marriage does not improve your single-ness - it exposes it.
- People "believe" marriage is the UPGRADE for them to become something better.
- People can "smell" your bad character!
- Nothing happens in marriage except exposure
Can probably tell that this sermon series has impacted me tremendously? There are lots of social media challenges - I personally challenge you to listen to this series on Relationship Goals and not lean up on your elbow with a new perspective on being SINGLE. What registered with me - may NOT be "bullet points" for your soul an dwell well-being - but if you are walking, talking and breathing human being - you will feel "something".
You will thank me later.
You're welcome.
No one may ever celebrate you for maintaining your integrity (even though you may have had several times to fail God). No one may celebrate you as a single mom (or dad). Look at you keeping the home in order raising a child that will one day be a functional contributor to society. Celebrate the fact that you don't have a LIE-ING person LYING next to you every morning! Celebrate your freedom of choice. Celebrate your individuality - you can choose to wear flats or red-bottom shoes - t-Shirts or a dress. Celebrate yourself for have a clear state of mind in a society of "Reality TV" where the true structure of the home is sometimes misunderstood. Celebrate your flaws. Celebrate your imperfections. You, are a MASTERPIECE!
EACH DAY IS VALENTINES DAY TO ME!
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